Faith….

“Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.” ― J.R.R. TolkienThe Fellowship of the Ring

When you are in a band the most important thing you can have is faith. Faith in yourself, faith in the other members, and a faith that all the members are in the same place as you. There is nothing so disappointing as to find out or suddenly realize that one of your members has no faith in the band as a whole. I will never, ever forget the most important thing my first bass player taught me many years ago. He said, “You are only as strong as your weakest link.” I have come to live by this saying and in the past when  I have found a weak link in the band the first thing I do is to sever the link. I don’t want to work with other musicians that have no faith in the band and in themselves. It reflects on the band as a whole and when the other musicians see that lack of conviction the other members will inevitably lose faith in the player. The way I see it is this, if your are in a band and you have no faith in the players why in the hell are you even with them?

Everyone faces a dark road at some point or another, it’s just how life works. If your personal problems have become so heavy that they are affecting your faith in yourself and in your band then sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. It’s not fair to push your problems onto the other members and your lack of faith in yourself and your band is a direct reflection of your ability to withstand life’s trials. Many times you will find that if you have faith in your band and its members you will find that they will help carry you through the darkest of times. If, on the other hand, you are displaying negativity about the band and yourself chances are the other band members are gonna pull away from you like one yanks away from a hot flame.

A man who keeps his faith in himself and those around him will find the road a much smoother path than one who loses faith and creates speedbumps for themselves and those around them.

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3 thoughts on “Faith….

  1. Any post that begins with a Tolkein quote can’t go wrong.

    I appreciate your recognition of the need to sometimes cut ties and walk away. Too often, I think, we equate the keeping of faith to sticking closer to the object/subject of that faith, as if proximity itself equals faithfulness. In the area of religious faith (and I was raised a Christian, although I’m not sure of the extent to which I accept that label anymore), it is accepted wisdom that when one has a crisis of faith, the best thing one can do is “go to church more,” but I find that this tends only to obfuscate the problem. If I pretend it doesn’t exist, maybe it will go away. But it’s the hard decisions (walking away, saying no [or at least not now]) that lead to healing, and something resembling objectivity, which I believe is the only way to restore (or replace) lost faith…

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